Emergencies

What Constitutes An Emergency?

An emergency can be anything which changes your life or circumstances suddenly, or radically, in a way that seems to rob you of your ability to cope.

Some examples of Emergencies would be:

Bereavement of a baby or young child

Bereavement of a loved one of any age

Loss of a parent, spouse or sibling

Serious or disabling injury

A spouse or partner suddenly walking out on you

Discovering that you have a serious or terminal illness

Rape

Unfair dismissal

Sudden loss of your job

Severe car accident or other near death experience

Being the victim of a burglary, robbery or street attack, terrorism

Experiencing a natural disaster like a flood, earthquake or tsunami

How Can An Emergency Affect You?

All these things can throw you into shock, and when you’re shocked you can’t function properly.

How severely these things impact on you depends upon many factors:

how much warning you had, if any, and what kind
whether or not you feel responsible
whether or not you believe someone else is to blame
how frightened you were
what the implications are for you and those you love and care about
how certain you felt that nothing like this could happen to you
whether or not you were let down by people
whether or not help came and if it did, when
whether or not you’re afraid of loss
whether or not you’re afraid of dying
whether or not you’re afraid of disability
whether or not you’re afraid of being on your own.

Coping Strategies

It also depends on whether your coping strategies for life are more about disconnecting from your experience or having your feelings. But, more importantly than all that, it depends on what ‘s happened to you before this experience.

Time Heals.....

Time heals it’s true, but it doesn’t touch bitterness, blame and a certain sense of being hard done by.

No-one can bring back the person you lost. No-one can put right the injustice you’ve experienced. No-one can make it up to you for a tragedy you would have preferred not to have happen, nor for the horror you have witnessed or experienced.

No-one can turn back time.

Moving On

But, and this is a very big but, working through the shock and grieving, letting go and moving on can take just a few months or thirty years, depending on what you choose to do about it.

Wellbeing Consultancy

At Wellbeing Consultancy, we’re lucky to have an expert at dealing with these kinds of situations.

Fifteen Years Experience

For over fifteen years people have been coming to see Christine Green with these kinds of problems.

They’re often surprised at how quickly she can help them come to terms with their changed circumstances, and how her warmth, knowledge and compassion can make the unbearable bearable.

Christine Green writes ...

When And How I Can Help

Given how fragile life is and how interconnected we are, no-one’s going to get through life without experiencing changes in circumstances which shock. For a start we will all lose our parents one day, that’s for certain.

I’ve helped people days or weeks after a tragedy. I’ve seen people who can’t eat and who can’t sleep, and who have panic attacks after a sudden shocking loss.

All of these symptoms have either gone or been significantly reduced after a session with me.

At times I’ve moved in with people shortly after a terrible loss to help them through, and at other times I’ve had people visit me for two and three hour sessions every three days.

I’ve also accompanied people in difficult situations resulting from trauma.

Having an uninvolved Professional on Your Side

In a sudden tragic or shocking situation, if it’s possible for you to arrange it, you can benefit so much from the help of an uninvolved and skilled person because:

You’ve been thrown into a situation where you need to talk about you and your experience.
The other people involved are in the same situation - they need to talk too, but about them not you.
Because of the shock none of you have any spare to give. Each of you is, understandably, needy - too needy for other needy people to cope with.

Anger

Often anger comes up. If you’ve nowhere neutral to go with it, you can find yourself hitting out at the people you love, and viciously. You may think you’d never do this, and under normal circumstances you wouldn’t. Yet when you’re shocked, you’re raw and not responding normally - and you might. It can be damaging to your relationships, sometimes irreparably.

Apathy or Panic Attacks

When you’re shocked you don’t give looking after yourself a high priority. You might even feel as though it’s not worth living. If you feel that way, you need help with those feelings.

Looking After Yourself

You may not want to eat, you may not be able to sleep and you may have panic attacks.

These are all things you can have help with and you’d be better for having help with them.

You may not give yourself good nutrition and you may not drink enough water. Now more than probably at any other time you need to nourish your body properly.

Keeping An Eye On Things

You literally need someone to keep an eye on these things and make sure the right nutrients and liquids are available and presented to you at regular intervals.

Superfoods are very useful here.

Help With Organisaton

You may have lots of mess around you and people coming to the house for a wake or a meeting. Someone who can either help or organise help to make and keep the space beautiful is also extremely useful.

Help Making Contacts

You may have to contact the police, a priest/vicar and/or an undertaker, and company while you do these things helps.

You Needs Support

You may have lots of sympathy cards and find them hard to read without support.

When you have an emergency, you do need the right kind of support.

You need someone who knows how to help people to experience fully what’s happening to them (as it’s through having all your experience that you can really come to terms with it).

A Strong and Compassionate Supporting Person

You need someone who’s not afraid of the depths and persistence of people’s feelings. Someone who, if all the emotion around them affects them, has the skills to get over it quickly, someone with both strength and compassionate understanding.

From Personal Experience.....

I’ve been there myself through a deeply painful break-up, through a serious, near-fatal car accident and post traumatic stress, through personal and professional betrayal, through injustice, and through the loss of my mother.

Living Proof......

I’ve fully experienced and fully recovered from all these things and I’m living proof that, with the right help, the sun can shine again the way it used to.

Only A Phone Call Away

Sometimes all that’s needed is a chat from time to time with a sympathetic ear, sometimes a full residential intervention is the only option.

I can provide the right level of support that works for you

and I’m only a phone call away.

Call Me FREE today on:

0800 298 0601

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